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I live in the Pacific Northwest with the guy I married in 2003.  We still like each other which seems rather worth celebrating. We’ve built our family through adoption only, a decision we made while dating.

We have two sons: Born in 2011 and 2012, they’re thirteen months apart. We then met our oldest in 2012 and our youngest thirteen months later. International adoption brought us together.

My blog has changed a lot through the years. As this post and that became widely read, I started making more and more of my old posts private. Little posts about daily life and mushiness over the kids I love more than anything suddenly seemed too personal for this wider readership. If the blog seems to skip through time, and over details that’s why.

And while this blog talks about adoption, its not an adoption blog. It’s just…mine. And I’m an adoptive mother so this naturally spills out.

If you are like me and can’t stand reading blogs in reverse order here is a link to the first post, written the day before we met our eldest son –  1/22/2012: tomorrow


(edited Dec 2015)

6 replies »

  1. thanks for following my blog, essays! I just wanted to let you know that although I rarely update that one, you can find fresher content on scotlandfiles.wordpress.com. thanks again for your insightful freshly pressed post, and best wishes!

  2. I really appreciate the enormous heart you have. Reading your blog is so relaxing and the lovely smiles of your sons bring peace. Keep going, I’ll be following. And yes, I do hate reading blogs in the reverse orther. Thanks for the link 🙂

  3. I can hardly handle your blog! I found it on Pinterest while looking for hair care tips for my little and my heart is in pieces. My brother and I are both adopted into a predominately white family and community – with much support from family and friends, I’ve recently started research on adoption search and reunion while I begin the journey to locate biological relatives. Your voice on adoption and mothering is beautiful, you’re boys will surely grow to hold on tight to their story!

  4. I just found you b/c of your post about “I don’t want you to be grateful.” I loved it so much and understood both your intent, and why you chose to close the comments. That being said…thank you for saying this. Thank you.

  5. Fellow adoptive mom AND adult adoptee here. Just from the few posts I have read so far, let me just say I am very impressed with your insight regarding perspective from the adoptee’s point of view. I am insanely passionate about this topic as well, as it is so integral to my very being. It is SOOO refreshing to see someone out there who “gets it”- especially being you aren’t adopted yourself (If I didn’t know better, I would think you were because of your spot-on wisdom in this area and topic). I only wish there were more out there like you, but it does start with education and awareness, and I thank you for providing that through this blog

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